Disordered eating

My name is Belinda and I have disordered eating.  In the past I've eaten emotionally, I've binged, I've restricted my food and I've hidden my eating from others. Actually it's probably no secret because I'm pretty sure I've written about it before during my figure comp blogging days.  It's not an eating disorder... it's disordered eating, and it comes and goes depending on my mental state.

You may also experience these things. Perhaps you don't talk about it because you feel so ashamed and embarrassed. Maybe you think you're the only person who does it or feels this way. Maybe you think that you are weak for doing it.

Sound like you? Read the full story here.

Posted on April 26, 2013 .
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Strong is the new skinny

I am excited to say that parts of the following article have been featured in the February edition of Cleo Magazine. Wow. I am so chuffed about that. If you want to read the Cleo article, it's in the media section. 

Is strong really the new skinny?

The ‘strong is the new skinny’ mantra is growing in popularity as women look for inspiration to keep fit and healthy.  Every day, social media sites like facebook, instagram and pinterest are plastered with images of muscular, athletic physiques promoting the benefits of strength training and clean eating. 

As a personal trainer, I’m noticing that there is a growing number of women aspiring to be stronger and fitter, and less focused on being skinny. This is particularly the case at Function Well where the majority of females training in the gym are training with weights on a regular basis.

Ultimately women want to look good and part of that is having confidence in their body shape.  Being skinny doesn’t necessarily result in body confidence, but I believe being strong and capable does. 

I don’t think women are specifically choosing strength goals ‘over’ dropping a dress size as such. Most of the women I work with are looking for body shape changes - the difference I see is that they’ve chosen to focus on strength goals as a positive means of achieving their goal of being slimmer and in better shape.  They are more interested in how much they can lift or how fast they can run as opposed to how much they weigh.

I believe one of the reasons we’re seeing a focus on strength goals is that we are strongly influenced by the media, and over the past 12-18 months, there has been a notable focus on celebrating healthy, athletic women.  More and more, women are being celebrated for their strength and athleticism, and this year’s Olympic Games is a perfect example.  Coverage of the Games led to a lot of discussion amongst personal training clients, not only about the awesome physiques of the female athletes but their incredible strength and power.  Also, the popularity of events like Tough Mudder and the Stampede, as well as the ever-growing Crossfit movement has given women something to aspire to, and has given them an arena to excel in. 

Striving for thinness is not empowering

Smart women are realising that being skinny doesn’t necessarily equate to being healthy.  When you see a strong, lean, athletic woman, you know she takes pride in herself.  You can tell that she exercises and eats well, and that is appealing to women (and men).  A strong physique has shape – in and out of clothing.

From my experience, women are also striving towards overall health and being empowered.    Striving for thinness is not empowering, and can lead to negative self-talk and anxiety.  For the women I work with, being strong and capable is what motivates them as opposed to feeling weak and anxious about how many calories they can eat or how much cardio they believe they should be doing.

Many women still have the mindset that to change their body shape, they need to ‘lose weight’ (on the scales), but being skinny or waif-like is not a goal of any of the women I’ve been working with over the past three years.  More often than not, when women say they want to lose 5kg they are really aspiring to a more shapely, toned and athletic body.  They want to get back into a dress that fitted last year or have a flatter tummy before buying a new bikini.  The smart ones quickly realise that you need to lift weights and focus on strength training to achieve these goals.   

It’s a myth that you’ll look like a bodybuilder just because you lift weights

One of the first things new clients say when I run them through their weight training program is that they ‘don’t want to bulk up’.  It’s a myth that women will bulk up if they lift weights.  Female figure competitors and body builders work extremely hard with very specific exercise programs to obtain the muscle needed to compete.  Even so, women just don’t have the level of testosterone that men do, and that prevents women from gaining the kind of muscle mass that men can gain.  

It is incredible to watch a woman’s physique change over time from lifting weights. With consistent weight training following an effective program, a woman’s body can change quite dramatically. They develop a leaner mid-section, more shapely legs, a higher and more toned butt, more defined arms and shoulders which can balance out a woman’s hips, and improved posture.  Long-steady cardio on the other hand gives you none of that. 

Benefits of weight training

It seems counter-intuitive to most women, but training with heavy weights is the key to fat loss and body transformation.  A lot of women talk about wanting to ‘tone up’.  What they’re really looking to achieve  is more muscle and less fat. To achieve that, you need to lift weights.  Weight training shapes your body, strengthens your bones, improves posture, helps prevent injury, increases your resting metabolic rate, and improves your body’s fat burning capacity.  You won’t get any of those benefits from steady-state cardio. You only need to compare the physiques of female sprinters and female marathon runners to understand what lifting weights and doing intense interval training can achieve as opposed to steady-state cardio.

Not everyone is built to be skinny

Focusing on being skinny is not sustainable, nor is it healthy.  Smart women realise that.

Not everyone is built to be ‘skinny’.  There’s a difference between being ‘skinny’ and being lean.  Being leaner (less body fat / more muscle) is certainly something that women can achieve, but achieving a skinny body is not necessarily possible depending on your body shape.

Getting stronger is definitely an achievable goal for all women.  No matter what your starting point is, there’s always room for improvement and achievement. 

Focus on what you can do, not how much you weigh

Everyone is different when it comes to motivation, but I’ve found that most of the clients I'm working with now have shifted their focus from what they weigh to what they can do.  Focusing on strength goals instead of weight loss can change the way a woman thinks about her training and her nutrition.  It can lead to a more positive attitude towards her body and higher motivation.  My clients get excited when they realise they’re lifting more weight or doing more reps than they did the week before.  When they achieve their first chin-up or pushup on their toes, it motivates them to work even harder for an extra chin-up or pushup next time.

I believe women are more likely to get a sense of achievement and empowerment if they focus on strength goals because they experience results weekly, providing recognition of the effort they’re putting in and reinforcing to them that they’re hard work is paying off. 

Women who focus solely on their weight and on weighing themselves as an indicator of success don’t get frequent positive reinforcement and are often disappointed by the results, which can lead to negative self-talk, depression, emotional eating, and a loss of enthusiasm and commitment to the goal.   Negative results can also lead to sabotaging behaviours - more restrictive dieting and engaging in excessive cardio – things that will have a detrimental effect on your ability to build and maintain muscle and reduce body fat.

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Posted on January 24, 2013 .
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Defining your goals

At some point after my last figure competition, I decided that I wouldn’t compete again. I had a bunch of reasons why I wouldn’t, most of which are still valid today. Lately I’ve started reminiscing about past competitions, the journey I’ve been on and the possibilities for the future. I’ve looked through photo albums, read through my blog, started reading other people’s blogs. Maybe I should have another go? Maybe things would be different? Maybe I could do better? Truth is, I don’t want to ride that rollercoaster again. What I do want is a challenge – a goal with consequences.
Posted on July 22, 2012 .
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Final week of strongman training

Final strongman training session today for Michelle and I at Functionwell.

Today's session was brutal - definitely the hardest one during the six weeks.

Got some great ideas from this training, and I'm feeling fitter, stronger and mentally tougher. 

Can't wait until the next block starts.

Here's what Michelle had to say about the training:

"Well the six week strongman/woman challenge came to an end yesterday, but I can't say it was sad because I'm going back to do it all again.  Whhat can I say, I LOVED IT!!! 

It has been so much fun training beside Belinda as I have learned so much and gained so much more confidence in just six weeks. 

I have started to change my diet with the guidance of Belinda of course, and feel very motivated to improve my fitness and the shape of my body which has already started.

It has been a great experience and can't wait for the next round. And, in combination with Belinda's training I think I will reach my goal :)"

Posted on April 28, 2012 .
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Strongwoman training - week 3

Absolutely loving the Strongman (woman) training at Function Well.

We are into week 3 now, and again they ramped up the intensity.

This week, an extra station (making it 10 stations in total) and an extra minute on every station (so 5min stations with a 1min rest between stations).

It was a great session. Had to dig deep on a few stations to get through, but it was an awesome feeling at the end.

Good to have Michelle back this week.

 

 

Posted on March 31, 2012 .
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Strong is the new skinny

I'm loving strongman (strongchick) training!

Yesterday was the second session of the 6-week Strongman/woman Overhaul at Function Well.  Michelle missed the session because she was racing in a rowing regatta on the coast (3rd place - nice work).

With Michelle away I was partnered up with a lovely (very muscly) lady - Linda - who kept me on my toes for the whole session.  Very encouraging and motivating. A good training partner.

The session was same format as last week, same exercises but with an extra exercise on the end (so an extra 5min round). Even though the weights went up on almost all exercises, and we were working harder and for longer, I didn't feel as sick during yesterday's session and I recovered quicker. (Phew... what a relief...) I guess last week my body just went into a bit of a meltdown - I hadn't trained like that for a long long time.

Today (just like last Sunday), Marina, Michelle and I did a mini-strongchick session at the gym and were sweating like pigs. What a great feeling. We also tried out some new exercises today with the strength bands, and I'll be putting a few clients through these workouts over coming weeks.

Since starting the strongman training, I'm feeling great, my abs feel tighter, my diet has changed dramatically and I'm feeling really motivated. 

Here's the video from yesterday's session. Check it out!

Posted on March 25, 2012 .
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A challenge of a different kind

Posted 16 March, 2012

If you've read my blog before, you'll know that I've been competing in figure comps since 2009. The first comp was a massive step out of my comfort zone - something I never imagined I could do. Since then, each comp has presented new challenges, new levels of discomfort and with that new levels of inner strength, determination and reward.

After my last comp in October 2011, I made plans to compete mid 2012. After the excitement of 2011 wore off, the thought of going through it all again started to seem a little less appealing.

I reckon it was early February 2012 that I decided I wouldn't compete this year, but I found it hard to admit it / to say it out loud. Afterall, if I don't compete again... what am I now? This blog will no longer be the 'diary of a figure girl', it will just be the 'diary of a girl'.  Feelings of guilt, failure, weakness kept me from telling people that I just don't want to do it this year.

Maybe if I worried less about what other people think, I'd be a lot happier and live a less stressful life. But that's another story...

So... with no comp in the future, I started panicking. I am the sort of person that needs a focus, a deadline, a challenge. I had also been counting on another comp to get me back on track with my training and clean eating. I felt like the only way I could stick to an eating plan would be to compete again.

And this is the really weird part... Before competing was even an idea, back in 2009, my diet was clean and lean. I was a healthy weight. My stomach was flat. I felt good about myself. Eating healthy and being active was a lifestyle - it came easily, it was what we did!  We did more than just go to the gym and lift weights.  Bernie and I hiked, we walked on weekends, we went kayaking, we'd do a weekend workout in the park.

These days, it's either weight training or 'on the vary rare occasion' some cardio.  I don't do anything beyond that. I've gotten very good in one area of training - but I've become very one-dimensional.

Well, all that is about to change.

Eleanor Roosevelt said 'do one thing every day that scares you'.  I'm taking her advice (sort of).

Every day.... well that sounds a little too crazy for me, so I'm starting with one thing each week - so every Saturday for the next 6 weeks I'll be smashing myself at a modified strongman/woman challenge at Function Well in Newstead. The challenge started today and was the toughest workout I've had in a long time - maybe ever.  I've done this type of training once before (at Function Well) but it was a short, sharp 15-20min session.  Today was a gruelling 50mins. 

Over the course of the six weeks, I'll be lifting, pulling, dragging, pushing, flipping, running. It will be hard. It will be grubby. It will be sweaty. I might even have a little spew - I nearly did today. And it will definitely hurt. It's exactly what I need to get my body and my head out of this rut!

Wrap up of today's session:

Bum down Belinda...! One of my clients - Michelle - is taking on the challenge too, and it was great slogging it out with her.  And I think she enjoyed some payback ... (not so much resistance with the bear crawls thanks Michelle).

The session was very well run by Function Well performance coaches, Dan and Nayte - both coaches provided excellent instruction of technique required, they motivated us and encouraged us to work as hard as we could.

The session consisted of 9 stations, 4mins on each station with a 'you go - I go' approach. So you rest while your partner works (which didn't seem like very long, let me tell you). 1min rest was allowed for you to move from one station to the next.  The exercises of torture were:

Eccentric chinups (10 sec eccentric phase)

Prowlers

Running with kettlebells

Single arm dumbbell push presses

Ab drags

Bear crawls in harness

Farmers walks

Sled drag uphill

Deadlifts

The session ended at 10.20am. By 11.30am, the vomit had receded and I was starting to feel good.

Lessons learned today:

1. I'm very good at lifting things 8-12 times and then resting. My body is not happy when running around with heavy stuff and working with minimal rest. Strength - ok. Endurance - hmmm.

2. Michelle smashed me on a couple of key exercises - the ab drag which I failed at miserably, and the sled drag uphill.  My core is nowhere near as strong as I thought it was, and from a fitness/endurance point of view, I've got some work to do. 

3. Getting out of your comfort zone is good for your mind and body. This is a strongman/woman challenge, but from this we won't just gain strength in terms of the body but also in terms of the mind, self esteem and ticker. Before taking this on, I questioned if I could do it. Would I make a fool of myself? What if I am not fit enough? Blah blah blah. A heap of excuses why I would give it a miss.  A good talking to from Bernie and a mate, Anthony, and I committed to taking it on. Now, I can't wait for the next session.

4. I learned that I spend far too much time worrying about what 'might' happen - and in my head, everything that is going to happen is going to be bad. Today, the worst that happened was that I felt like spewing for the whole 50min session (and for about an hour afterwards) LOL! But what followed was a massive rush and a massive feeling of achievement!  I tried something new and the sky didn't fall in... just as Anthony had promised.

If you don't face your fears, challenge yourself and try something new, the only thing you'll be a success at is being a damn fool. You'll never learn anything new. You won't grow as a person. You won't adapt. You won't be a better version of yourself. You won't move forward. Even two steps forward and one step back is better than standing still!! So, whatever it is that you've been procrastinating about, fearing, worrying about, just get some ticker and give it a go. 

Now... bring on that tyre!! We have unfinished business.

RSPCA 24hr challenge (Feb 2011). Belinda vs The Tyre.

Update

on 2012-03-17 23:49 by Belinda Wasowski

Michelle's review of the Modified Strongman/woman Challenge:

Post-workout photo... sweaty and worse for wear..."Today I went to the first session of the Six Week Strongman/Woman Challenge with Belinda and it was fantastic.

I was nervous all morning wondering what was I was in for and worried that I might not be able to do it.

I arrived at the gym and was so relieved when I saw Belinda through the windows - I would not have done this without her...actually I would not have even known about it if it wasn't for her.

There was sled pulling up a steep driveway, chinups, deadlifts, pushing weights across the room and heaps more.

It was such hard work but invigorating at the same time.

All my training with Belinda is paying off big time.  There is no way that I would have been fit enough to do this without her. She is a brillant trainer and it was great being her partner today."

Posted on March 16, 2012 .
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Squatting and loving it

So many great benefits of moving across to Anytime Fitness Bardon.

Number 1: the power rack. Helloooo squats. No more squatting in the smith machine! Yay!!

Posted on January 24, 2012 .
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I'm human and I know it

I've received some interesting feedback on my festive turns festy blog. For some, it was inspiring. For others, it was a relief to hear that even their personal trainer had taken some time off at Christmas and had eaten a few too many treats.
Posted on January 18, 2012 .
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Festive turns festy.

During the Christmas break, I took some time off from my training, and took time off from beating myself up about food. I got festive. I did it guilt-free for a change and I enjoyed all that Christmas has to offer, including Mum's famous trifle.
Posted on January 15, 2012 .
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Losing more than just body fat

The past three weeks of holidaying gave me a chance to sit back and relax (as much as is possible for someone who doesn't like sitting still for too long). And by sitting back and relaxing, I mean sitting still with my mind racing. I do find it hard to shut off unfortunately, so the past three weeks I've done a lot of thinking. Put honestly, I've done a lot of over-analysing. Monday will be the official end of the holiday, and the beginning of the next chapter for me in terms of training for my next goal. But what is it that lies ahead?
Posted on November 26, 2011 .
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Buying a new bikini: love or hate?

Today's blog is inspired by the events of yesterday. It was a lazy last day in Coffs Harbour, but we took time out from lying around in the sun to visit a few local shops. I bought a few bits and pieces (singlets, shorts, etc) and tried on a few bikinis.
Posted on November 17, 2011 .
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